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Do I Really Need a QDRO?

Many times… that’s a definite YES! Let’s say you find yourself in the final stretch of your divorce and you can see hope at the end of the tunnel. Perhaps you’ve reached a proposed settlement agreement with your spouse, then your Attorney or Mediator brings up, “In order to split this retirement account, you need a QDRO done and there will be a cost for that.” You may want to just scream out, “Wait, what? Are you kidding? What the heck is a QDRO?”

Being Ethical In Divorce. Is That an Oxymoron? Of course not! It’s Essential.

You may be facing a crisis in your marriage, so you decide to divorce. Now with that decision, will you keep things ethical as you move forward? Can you find a process and path that’s works best for you and your family? While only 5% of litigated divorce cases today...

Does the Collaborative Divorce Process “Really” Work?

Yes, very well based on the statistics below found on the Florida Academy of Collaborative Professionals (FACP) website. U.S. Statistics on Collaborative Divorce The International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP) reports that 86% of Collaborative cases...

Can a Divorce Mediator Really Be Neutral?

YES! A divorce Mediator can easily stay neutral because they are trained to be sympathetic to the needs of both parties. Mediators focus on each individual's issues, surrounding the matters most important to them. Concerns such as child custody and time-sharing,...

Are you 50+? Thinking about divorce? Don’t go at it alone.

Want to have a clear blueprint of your finances and better understand your financial options? Speak with a divorce financial specialist (CDFA®) early on. #cdfa#divorcefinancialplanning#sandoakdivorcesolutions#qdro#chfc#divorcedonedifferently#idfa...

A Few Common Money Mistakes in Divorce

For most people, the divorce process is emotionally draining and mentally exhausting. It can be a time of feeling frozen, numb, or moving in circles. But despite those feelings, you will be expected to go through your finances with a fine-tooth comb to ensure that...

Are All Mediators the Same? Nope.

Some Mediators find themselves uncomfortable with what is being called mediation in their own and other areas. In addition, many clients are confused about what they will get if they go to mediation. Styles of mediation vary greatly and can significantly impact the...

Let Go Of The Concept Of A “Fair” Divorce Settlement?

As soon as you decide that divorce is a reality … or … your spouse informs you of their decision, immediately thoughts turn to your own financial future and fears. Questions pop up such as: “Do I make enough money to live on my own?” “How much of my income will go to...

5 Wonderful Things To Consider About Life After Divorce

While going through the divorce process, it can be difficult to see the sunshine through the forest of worry and stress. But if you’re getting a divorce, it’s because you believe that you will be happier not being married, right? Let me share some of the upsides of...

Five Priorities For When Your Divorce Becomes Final

After an emotional roller coaster, you have FINALLY received that 8 ½ by 11 manila envelope containing your Final Judgement/Divorce Decree, signed by the judge. You are officially a single person once again. You may celebrate or you may mourn, BUT … it’s time to...
Do I Really Need a QDRO?

Do I Really Need a QDRO?

Many times… that’s a definite YES! Let’s say you find yourself in the final stretch of your divorce and you can see hope at the end of the tunnel. Perhaps you’ve reached a proposed settlement agreement with your spouse, then your Attorney or Mediator brings up, “In order to split this retirement account, you need a QDRO done and there will be a cost for that.” You may want to just scream out, “Wait, what? Are you kidding? What the heck is a QDRO?”

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Can a Divorce Mediator Really Be Neutral?

Can a Divorce Mediator Really Be Neutral?

YES! A divorce Mediator can easily stay neutral because they are trained to be sympathetic to the needs of both parties. Mediators focus on each individual's issues, surrounding the matters most important to them. Concerns such as child custody and time-sharing,...

read more
A Few Common Money Mistakes in Divorce

A Few Common Money Mistakes in Divorce

For most people, the divorce process is emotionally draining and mentally exhausting. It can be a time of feeling frozen, numb, or moving in circles. But despite those feelings, you will be expected to go through your finances with a fine-tooth comb to ensure that...

read more
Are All Mediators the Same? Nope.

Are All Mediators the Same? Nope.

Some Mediators find themselves uncomfortable with what is being called mediation in their own and other areas. In addition, many clients are confused about what they will get if they go to mediation. Styles of mediation vary greatly and can significantly impact the...

read more
Five Priorities For When Your Divorce Becomes Final

Five Priorities For When Your Divorce Becomes Final

After an emotional roller coaster, you have FINALLY received that 8 ½ by 11 manila envelope containing your Final Judgement/Divorce Decree, signed by the judge. You are officially a single person once again. You may celebrate or you may mourn, BUT … it’s time to...

read more