Divorce does screwy things to a person's head. Believe me, I’ve seen it. The once intelligent together person that you were, can turn into an emotional, brain-fogged, & unorganized basket case. You try really, really hard to keep it together, but you know this...
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Collaborative Divorce
by David Smith | May 11, 2023 | Uncategorized | 0 Comments
The unthinkable has happened- you or your spouse decided to pursue a divorce. Now what? It’s time for a long, contentious slog in court with fighting, bickering, and hefty fees, right?
What if there was another way – private, non-adversarial, potentially less costly, and much better for your family as a whole? Going to court is not the only way to get through a divorce. In fact, there are a few ways to avoid costly court divorces. Let’s take a look at one of them – the Collaborative Divorce Process to see if it’s a right fit for you.
The “Frozen Benefits” Rule
by David Smith | April 14, 2023 | Uncategorized | 0 Comments
In an effort to standardize benefit divisions and “simplify” military divorces, Congress enacted the National Defense Authorization Act for Fiscal Year 2017 (NDAA 17). The new rule applies to those service members still serving (active-duty, National Guard, or Reserves), divorced after December 23rd, 2016, and is known as the “Frozen Benefit Rule” … which made divorce much more complicated for all parties involved.
The Gray Divorce Podcast – Military Divorce with Special Guest David Smith (Lt. Col. ret.)
by David Smith | March 27, 2023 | Uncategorized | 0 Comments
Military Divorce is a different creature than civilian divorce and has a particular set of rules and regulations, as might befit the military! On this episode of The Gray Divorce Podcast Andrew Hatherley and I untangle the various rules and benefits that apply to couples in military divorce.
Divorce in the Military
by David Smith | February 20, 2023 | Uncategorized | 0 Comments
Top 3 Financial Strategies When Planning for Your Divorce
by David Smith | January 4, 2023 | Divorce Solutions | 0 Comments
Three Serious Divorce Mistakes
by David Smith | October 7, 2022 | Uncategorized | 0 Comments
The Mediation Option For Divorce & How to Prepare
by David Smith | September 13, 2022 | Divorce Solutions | 0 Comments
Most people facing any day in front of a Judge in Court, would avoid it if they could. When going through divorce, that urge is just as strong.
Steps To Take Before You “Finally” Decide To Divorce
by David Smith | August 2, 2022 | Divorce Solutions | 0 Comments
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Deciding to Leave a Marriage
by David Smith | July 6, 2022 | Divorce Solutions | 0 Comments
There may be some red flags and early signs of irreconcilable issues along the way, but even so … the decision to dissolve a marriage is a very tough one. Many people choose to stay and only find resolution when the spouse they’ve been with for so long thinking of leaving, up and leaves them first.
Retirement And “Survival” After A Gray Divorce
by David Smith | June 6, 2022 | Divorce Solutions | 0 Comments
The Mediation Option For Divorce & How to Prepare
by David Smith | Sep 13, 2022
Most people facing any day in front of a Judge in Court, would avoid it if they could. When going through divorce, that urge is just as strong.
Steps To Take Before You “Finally” Decide To Divorce
by David Smith | Aug 2, 2022
Almost every relationship begins with that “giddy” period of falling in love, imagining a long life together with your spouse, maybe having a couple of children together, and perhaps even a pet to round out the happy loving family. What most people can’t imagine, is...
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Deciding to Leave a Marriage
by David Smith | Jul 6, 2022
There may be some red flags and early signs of irreconcilable issues along the way, but even so … the decision to dissolve a marriage is a very tough one. Many people choose to stay and only find resolution when the spouse they’ve been with for so long thinking of leaving, up and leaves them first.
Retirement And “Survival” After A Gray Divorce
by David Smith | Jun 6, 2022
Over the last few years, one trend in divorce has firmly taken root. Baby Boomers are divorcing at double the rate of other groups. As our life expectancies lengthen, our attitudes about divorce evolve. And while it’s not still rapidly increasing quite as much, Boomer...
How Much Spousal Support/Alimony is Enough?
by David Smith | Apr 14, 2022
The answer shouldn’t be “As Much As I Can Get!” because there is only a limited pot to share. So, be fair about it. Many couples going through a divorce after a mid-length or long-term marriage know that some level of Spousal Support or Alimony is needed, but...
Five Additional Interview Questions For Your “Potential” Divorce Attorney
by David Smith | Mar 8, 2022
Answers to these questions may help you determine which professional is the best choice for you.
Five Questions To Ask Your “Potential” Divorce Attorney
by David Smith | Feb 8, 2022
If you haven’t had the opportunity to watch the 2015 documentary “Divorce Corp.”, which is available on Netflix, take the time soon to do that. It’s a frightening look at the corruption, collusion, and abuse that sometimes happens in the Family Court system. After you see it you’ll wonder, how does a person protect themselves and know if their Attorney is one of the “good ones”?
What NOT to do When You Are Ready to Tell Your Spouse “I want a divorce.”
by David Smith | Jan 10, 2022
If you are the bearer of this incredibly bad news, you may not be sure of how your spouse will react, especially if infidelity is involved. That fear can cause you to make some bad decisions, for example thinking that breaking the news to them in a public place, will less likely lead to hysterics on their part.
Divorce: How to Smartly Keep More Of “Your” Money
by David Smith | Dec 15, 2021
As soon as you begin to contemplate divorce, the realization of losing half of your net worth may kick in, and you find yourself wondering if it’s even worth it financially to consider leaving.
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