What’s a man contemplating, or already in the middle of a divorce, to do? There seems to be multitudes of services that cater to helping women during this tough time. It’s true that women may need a little more emotional support and financial education during the process if their Husband had overseen the finances during the marriage. But the family finances may not always have been handled in this manner. Men can also struggle to find appropriate divorce-related resources that they need.
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Collaborative Divorce
by David Smith | May 11, 2023 | Uncategorized | 0 Comments
The unthinkable has happened- you or your spouse decided to pursue a divorce. Now what? It’s time for a long, contentious slog in court with fighting, bickering, and hefty fees, right?
What if there was another way – private, non-adversarial, potentially less costly, and much better for your family as a whole? Going to court is not the only way to get through a divorce. In fact, there are a few ways to avoid costly court divorces. Let’s take a look at one of them – the Collaborative Divorce Process to see if it’s a right fit for you.
The “Frozen Benefits” Rule
by David Smith | April 14, 2023 | Uncategorized | 0 Comments
In an effort to standardize benefit divisions and “simplify” military divorces, Congress enacted the National Defense Authorization Act for Fiscal Year 2017 (NDAA 17). The new rule applies to those service members still serving (active-duty, National Guard, or Reserves), divorced after December 23rd, 2016, and is known as the “Frozen Benefit Rule” … which made divorce much more complicated for all parties involved.
The Gray Divorce Podcast – Military Divorce with Special Guest David Smith (Lt. Col. ret.)
by David Smith | March 27, 2023 | Uncategorized | 0 Comments
Military Divorce is a different creature than civilian divorce and has a particular set of rules and regulations, as might befit the military! On this episode of The Gray Divorce Podcast Andrew Hatherley and I untangle the various rules and benefits that apply to couples in military divorce.
Divorce in the Military
by David Smith | February 20, 2023 | Uncategorized | 0 Comments
Top 3 Financial Strategies When Planning for Your Divorce
by David Smith | January 4, 2023 | Divorce Solutions | 0 Comments
Three Serious Divorce Mistakes
by David Smith | October 7, 2022 | Uncategorized | 0 Comments
The Mediation Option For Divorce & How to Prepare
by David Smith | September 13, 2022 | Divorce Solutions | 0 Comments
Most people facing any day in front of a Judge in Court, would avoid it if they could. When going through divorce, that urge is just as strong.
Steps To Take Before You “Finally” Decide To Divorce
by David Smith | August 2, 2022 | Divorce Solutions | 0 Comments
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Deciding to Leave a Marriage
by David Smith | July 6, 2022 | Divorce Solutions | 0 Comments
There may be some red flags and early signs of irreconcilable issues along the way, but even so … the decision to dissolve a marriage is a very tough one. Many people choose to stay and only find resolution when the spouse they’ve been with for so long thinking of leaving, up and leaves them first.
Retirement And “Survival” After A Gray Divorce
by David Smith | June 6, 2022 | Divorce Solutions | 0 Comments
Do I Really Need a QDRO?
by David Smith | Oct 8, 2021
Many times… that’s a definite YES! Let’s say you find yourself in the final stretch of your divorce and you can see hope at the end of the tunnel. Perhaps you’ve reached a proposed settlement agreement with your spouse, then your Attorney or Mediator brings up, “In order to split this retirement account, you need a QDRO done and there will be a cost for that.” You may want to just scream out, “Wait, what? Are you kidding? What the heck is a QDRO?”
Being Ethical In Divorce. Is That an Oxymoron? Of course not! It’s Essential.
by David Smith | Sep 1, 2021
You may be facing a crisis in your marriage, so you decide to divorce. Now with that decision, will you keep things ethical as you move forward? Can you find a process and path that’s works best for you and your family? While only 5% of litigated divorce cases today...
Does the Collaborative Divorce Process “Really” Work?
by David Smith | Aug 3, 2021
Yes, very well based on the statistics below found on the Florida Academy of Collaborative Professionals (FACP) website. U.S. Statistics on Collaborative Divorce The International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP) reports that 86% of Collaborative cases...
Can a Divorce Mediator Really Be Neutral?
by David Smith | Jul 5, 2021
YES! A divorce Mediator can easily stay neutral because they are trained to be sympathetic to the needs of both parties. Mediators focus on each individual's issues, surrounding the matters most important to them. Concerns such as child custody and time-sharing,...
Are you 50+? Thinking about divorce? Don’t go at it alone.
by David Smith | Jun 10, 2021
Want to have a clear blueprint of your finances and better understand your financial options? Speak with a divorce financial specialist (CDFA®) early on. #cdfa#divorcefinancialplanning#sandoakdivorcesolutions#qdro#chfc#divorcedonedifferently#idfa...
A Few Common Money Mistakes in Divorce
by David Smith | Jun 7, 2021
For most people, the divorce process is emotionally draining and mentally exhausting. It can be a time of feeling frozen, numb, or moving in circles. But despite those feelings, you will be expected to go through your finances with a fine-tooth comb to ensure that...
Are All Mediators the Same? Nope.
by David Smith | May 5, 2021
Some Mediators find themselves uncomfortable with what is being called mediation in their own and other areas. In addition, many clients are confused about what they will get if they go to mediation. Styles of mediation vary greatly and can significantly impact the...
Let Go Of The Concept Of A “Fair” Divorce Settlement?
by David Smith | Apr 1, 2021
As soon as you decide that divorce is a reality … or … your spouse informs you of their decision, immediately thoughts turn to your own financial future and fears. Questions pop up such as: “Do I make enough money to live on my own?” “How much of my income will go to...
5 Wonderful Things To Consider About Life After Divorce
by David Smith | Mar 1, 2021
While going through the divorce process, it can be difficult to see the sunshine through the forest of worry and stress. But if you’re getting a divorce, it’s because you believe that you will be happier not being married, right? Let me share some of the upsides of...
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