It probably comes as no surprise to you that individuals who ultimately decide to divorce had their first thought about that possibility more than a year before it actually happened, and often many years prior.
There may be some red flags and early signs of irreconcilable issues along the way, but even so … the decision to dissolve a marriage is a very tough one. Many people choose to stay and only find resolution when the spouse they’ve been with for so long thinks of leaving, up and leaves them first.
Why does that happen, and why do some folks wait so long and sacrifice so much? Well, I’m not a Psychologist, Therapist, or Counselor but I have spent a fair share of time studying the ins and outs of divorce. Let me share what I’m fairly certain of, in this particular area.
- When people say “for better or worse”, most actually mean it! They go into a relationship committed to working through anything. But sacrificing themselves sometimes is not the healthiest choice.
- If your marriage is really, really hard work, perhaps you’re married to the wrong person.
- If you don’t like the person that you are on most days, perhaps you’re with the wrong person.
- If you feel bullied, controlled, ignored, or completely misunderstood, you’re most likely in a relationship with the wrong person.
- If you’re staying together just for the children’s sake, you’re probably hurting your kids and not helping them. Kids need to see a model of a healthy and loving relationship, or they will not know how to have one of their own.
- Being in the “right” relationship is nearly effortless, and having the right partner should inspire you to become a better person for them, just because you feel so lucky to have them in your life.
Just some food for thought and my ideas to “chew on”. Suggest that you seek out the services of a qualified mental health professional to get their perspective, as well.
I wish the best for you and your family, now and in the future. If you do decide that divorce is the only way out, before retaining an attorney to represent you please attend a complimentary Divorce Options Educational Workshop to find out the advantages and disadvantages of all the divorce process options you have available.
Find out more by visiting www.DivorceOptionsFlorida.com or contact my Panama City, Florida office at (850) 252-6325.